How to Get Your Wife to Give More Head
One of the most asked questions among married men all throughout the world is the simple and ever popular “how do I get my wife to give me head?”.
For one reason or another, massive amounts of men find themselves lacking the pleasurable explosion that fellatio provides (they either get it rarely or none at all) once they get married – even if their wives did it in the past. This can be demotivating, depressing and can even lead into a serious handful of trouble if not addressed as soon as possible. Due to this, tons of men search for help on how to get blown.
If you’re part of the group and wondering how to get your wife to give you a blowjob, then you’ve come to the right place. While it might seem difficult, the power of information provided by science and tons of surveys make it quite simple to achieve.
After gathering and analyzing the mountains of data mentioned above, we’ve boiled it all down into an effective, easy to implement step by step guide. By following these simple tips and tricks, you’ll be on your merry way to get more head now and forever.
There are a few general concepts that you must master before starting such as cleanliness, confidence, mood and more. If you’re missing these, you can read how to achieve them here.
Now without further ado, let’s begin!
How to Get Your Wife to Give More Head in 4 Steps
Follow these steps closely and you’ll be on your merry way to get blown by your wife.
1 – Analyse Her Personality
The crucial first step. Since you’re married, you most likely already know your wife’s personality through and through so this should be easy.
Think about your wife and the key personality traits that define her. Is she adventurous and fun? Or is she more quiet and reserved? Have you noticed changes to her mood and personality over the years? Ask yourself these questions and you’ll start to form a great basis to find out why you’re facing a scarcity or complete lack of fellatio – which is often heavily related to other root causes like your wife being grossed out by it or lacking the confidence to perform it well (perfectly fine) or it can be due to disinterest and lack of love and intimacy (which is a much bigger problem).
Once you’ve done this, move on to figuring out the reason behind it all:
2 – Find the Reason Behind the “No”
Now is the time to zero in and focus on the reason behind your wife not blowing you. As mentioned above, there are two main “paths” this can lead to – personality or external.
Personality is the easiest to understand and manage. It all boils down to your wife loving you completely but for some reason, she’s simply not giving you head at the moment due to something. Your wife might just be very “vanilla” (plain in bed) and dislike giving blowjobs. She might also be grossed out by the idea or lack the self-confidence to perform it (as she thinks she’ll do a bad job or is afraid to gag or swallow, among others). She might also simply not be excited enough or feeling adventurous.
It’s your job to figure out which of these points accurately reflects your wife and then act on it later to fix them, as we’ll see in the third step.
External factors are the hardest to figure out and manage. This means that something else, besides her own personality traits, is wrong. It might be a lack of intimacy, respect or even love which leads to your wife not performing oral on you. Has she gotten increasingly cold? Was she more exciting and sexually active with you before? Can you pinpoint a time where she stopped giving you head or heavily reduced the occasions? Ask yourself these questions and figure out the reason behind it. If you notice that your wife’s behavior is a reflection of these issues, then sadly it will be harder to “solve” but there are still a few ways to do it as we’ll see on the third step below.
3 – Act on It
Now that you’ve got an idea of what’s causing the lack of sexual head action in your marriage, it’s time to roll up your sleeves and fix it.
Although this will heavily depend on your results from the second step, here are some excellent tips to fix the most common issues that are keeping your wife from blowing you:
- Plain in bed
This is perfectly normal. You can try performing oral on her first as well – if you haven’t yet – which will make her much more likely to return the favor. She might also be lacking a bit of encouragement and excitement, which you will have to deliver if you want her to perform. If she’s really conservative about it, you’ll just have to accept it or, if it’s a true deal-breaker for you, simply tell your wife and explain how important it is for you and how much you appreciate it.
Always gradually up the ante too. Start by trying exotic positions, different locations and you’ll most likely get her to try increasingly more risque sexual acts, leading her to finally blow you. - Grossed out
A lot of women are also grossed out by the act of going down on a man. If this is the case, the obvious first step to take is to ensure that your privates are absolutely pristine – well kept or shaved pubic hair, completely clean penis and surroundings, fresh smelling.
If you haven’t done so yet, go down on her yourself to show her that you’re not grossed out by it at all. She’ll not only be more inclined to reciprocate, but it’ll show you how comfortable you are with it and how natural it is.
If she can’t get over the taste or doesn’t like using spit (adding to the gross factor), you can try a flavored lube. - Lack of self confidence/afraid
If she’s never done it before or done it in a sub-par fashion in the past, it’s highly likely that she’ll be afraid to do it for the first time or unwilling to do it again. This part is all up to you – you can talk to her about how much you’d love for her to do it (for the first time or again).
There are a few ways to get her to blow you – which we’ve covered here already – but the secret here is that after telling or implying how much you love it and get her to do it, you’ll have to heavily encourage her. Do this with natural vocal and physical feedback – tell her how much you’re loving it and how great of a job she’s doing. If you love it, she’ll love it too and she’ll gradually overcome her fear or doubts and start giving you more and more head.
Be sure to reciprocate! - Lack of excitement
Sometimes, it’s just lack of excitement. Maybe you’re both working hard and late and when you finally have time together you’re already too tired to get hot and heavy. Another common cause is the lack of fresh, new and exciting ideas being brought into the bedroom. The same thing over and over again can get old quick so always be sure to be adventurous and creative – different locations, different hours, different positions, different toys. Be frisky and bold! Try to find out what she loves or fantasizes about and make it come to life for her.
If it’s the routine that’s getting to you both, as mentioned above, then you’ve gotta be creative and overcome this. Maybe try to get a few cheeky sexual sessions squeezed into your schedules – at lunch, during a break, before leaving to work – whenever you can. You can also surprise her with a paid vacation, stay at a fancy hotel after a dinner out – the sky’s the limit as long as it gets you both relaxed, free and ready to get rowdy.
These are the easiest to fix, now let’s take a look at some of the deeper causes and their solutions as well. - Decrease in intimacy
If you’ve been spending less time together due to work or other reasons, a decrease in intimacy can easily happen. This is easy to detect – you will both feel it and it’ll be reflected in your conversations, actions and in the bedroom as well.
If this is the case, act quickly. Do your best to spend more quality time together. Break the routine, book a short vacation, go to a luxurious restaurant, do something you both loved and simply haven’t done in a long while. The secret here is to re-connect. You’ll both remember why you fell in love in the first place, share intimate thoughts and moments and feel closer than ever. Once this is done, don’t let it go down again – keep the intimacy up and pay attention to it regularly.
Not only is this excellent for your marriage, but she will certainly feel much more comfortable and connected with you, making it much easier for your wife to give you a blowjob. - Dim sexual flame
Extremely common in marriages, especially in longer ones, the death of the sexual flame is a tough issue to face. Not only will your wife stop giving you blowjobs but your whole sexual life could be in danger. It will become routine and not exciting at all, making the sessions few and far in between or even non-existent.
In this case, you’ve gotta go all out and rock her world. Think back to when you were both rowdy and happier than ever – what did you have then that’s missing now? Maybe more free time and quality adventures spent together. Maybe you were both more cheeky and exciting. No matter what it was, you’ve gotta bring it back in double.
Rekindle the flame by surprising her with confidence and sexual potency. Be bold and be creative. Take her in exotic places and times, show yourself interested and excited instead of dull. Blow her mind with unrelenting sexual energy and she’ll blow you back (pun intended)! - Increasingly cold and distant behavior
Unlike a simple decrease in intimacy, being distant and cold is much harsher to face and often has deeper roots. If it’s sudden, then something serious happened between you two recently and you have to address it. If it’s gradual, then a combination of the two issues seen above (decrease in intimacy and dim sexual flame) is starting to take a toll on your relationship.
Put all the solutions discussed above into practice and bring your marriage back up to life before it’s too late. Once you’ve recovered, never let it go back down again. You’ll get your blowjobs back but more importantly – you’ll get your marriage and love back, and jokes aside that’s what really matters.
Bonus: General Tips
– Be cool, calm and collected. Exude confidence and sexiness through your actions instead of your words. Don’t talk – do.
– If you haven’t tried it yet, be proactive and go down on her first – studies show that she’ll be much more likely to reciprocate.
– When she performs, encourage her and let her know you’re loving it through verbal and non-verbal communication.
4 – Never Beg for It
The biggest mistake a married man can make is to beg his wife – not only for a blowjob but for anything. Never, ever beg your wife for it. If you’ve done it already, never do it again. It’s unattractive, pathetic and contrary to what you might think it’ll only push her further away and worsen your chances of getting blown, and the chances of getting anything else too.
Women love confidence and self-respect, begging destroys both. Not only that but you shouldn’t have to beg in the first place – it’s just as much your wife’s duty to please you as it is yours to please her.
Never let the tables get turned and let your wife have all the control. She’ll lose respect for you, even if she doesn’t say it, and she’ll quickly lose interest in you, especially when it comes to sex. Women want mystery, power, confidence and boldness, they don’t want you to say yes to everything or to bend over for their every need – quite the opposite. This doesn’t mean you should be an uncaring asshole, not at all, but you should be assertive, confident and always have self-respect. Your wife, and any woman for that matter, will admire that, respect you in return and be much more sexually attracted to you.
Keep an aura of mystery too, don’t let her know every little thing you do or think. They love to chase and if you hand your wife all the control then she has nothing to chase for – hence the loss of interest, then loss of sex, then loss of blowjobs.
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What a ride. This has been eye opening I bet and all of us here at GetHeadGuide hope you’ve found it useful and effective. Not only are these tips extremely effective if you were wondering how to get your wife to give more head but they also apply to many other facets of marriage. Just remember to actually act on it, don’t just think about it – DO!
Thanks for reading, good luck and go get that damn blowjob!
